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Note: If resentment and contempt have become chronic, such that you continually hurt or offend each other, a more intensive approach relationship courses is necessary. See the Love without Hurt boot camp.

Selected Contents

It Feels as if You’re in a Bad Play
Demand-Withdraw Dynamic
Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic
Fear-Shame Dynamic
The Engine of IRDs
How to Prevent IRDs
How to Deactivate IRDs
Binocular Vision
Blind Spots

Intimate Betrayal
Use Pain for Growth
Develop a Healing Identity
Your Core Value Bank
Heal Painful Memories
Freedom from Resentment
Use Doubt Therapeutically
Time Dimensions of Repair
Wise Trust
Know What You Want
Compassionate Repair

Love in the two brains
Alarm Systems
How Can I be Me while You’re being You?
Toddler Coping
How to Balance Autonomy & Connection
Core Value Narratives
Turn Toddler Feelings into Adult Motivations
How to Make Love Soar
“Teach me how to love you.”

Effects of Estrogen & Testosterone on Love
How Opposite Vulnerabilities Impair Relationship Talk
The Fear-Shame Antidote
How to Communicate
Teamwork
The Attitude of Connection
Loving Opposites
Fear, Shame, Sex
The Power Love Formula

The Core Self
Temperament
Adaptations
The Core Self in Love

Tricks of Memory
Memory and Sense of Self
Convert Futile Arguments into Gainful Discussions
Choose a Truer Meaning

Staying in Love
Question One to Ask of Your Partner
Question Two to Ask of Your Partner
Question Three to Ask of Your Partner
To Love Well
Relationship Tips

Apology: The Art & Science
Behavior Requests, Complaints, Contempt
Love & Sex
Make Love Last
The Power Love Formula
Commitments

How it All Goes Wrong
Differences in Focus-Refocus
Differences in Mental & Verbal Processing
Differences in Temperament
Differences in Core Vulnerability
Accept and Improve
Compassion, Shame in Love
Four People in a Marriage
Argue to Learn
Make It Easy to Get What You Want
How Do You Want Loved Ones to Perceive You?
Create Interest in Your Relationship
Love’s Orchard
Four Rs of Repair

Relationship Courses

These potent relationship courses are designed to turn distressed unions…

Into compassionate, loving ones.

Intimate Relationship Dynamics

Intimate relationship dynamics (IRDs) create cycles of resentment, hostility, and despair.

IRDs are unconscious interactive patterns in which both parties automatically react to each other in set ways.

You have the same argument or unpleasant discussion over and over.

Once an IRD gets activated, the content of the exchange, whether serious or trivial, doesn’t matter; both partners slip into their habitual reactions.

Instead of working as a team to solve the problem…

Partners see each other as the problem.

They view each other as opponents at first, and eventually as enemies.

The course shows how to prevent IRDs…

And how to deactivate them when you slip back to old habits.

Loving after Betrayal

This course will help you regain a sense of trust in yourself.

It offers potent methods to heal, grow, and love again.

You’ll learn practical skills for overcoming betrayal-induced trauma and the chronic resentment and depression that so often follow.

If you’ve recently left a relationship where you felt betrayed by your partner—or if you want to repair one— you need these effective tools for healing and renewal.

Soaring Love

We fall in love in the Toddler brain, the volatile and impulsive limbic system, which reaches maturity by age three.

We stay in love in the profoundest and most stable part of the Adult brain − the prefrontal cortex, which reaches full maturity around age 28.

Toddler brain love is filled with wonder at first, but inevitably causes irreconcilable conflict and pain.

Adult love rises from our deepest, most humane values of compassion, kindness, and desire for mutual growth.

This course shows how to deepen your experience of love, while making your relationship safe and secure in the most profound parts of the brain.

A powerful relationship is not about communication skills or getting your needs met.

It’s about staying in touch with your deepest values.

Creating value in love relationships gives life meaning and purpose.

Dr. Stosny’s Blog on Psychology Today

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