Core Value Eating
Research
shows clearly that diets do not work and can be harmful. Those who
achieve weight loss through diets are almost guaranteed to gain more
than they loss within two years. What's more, the roller coaster ride
of weight loss followed by inevitable weight gain has serious physical
and mental health ramifications.
The
fact is, weight loss through diet is more likely to lead to binge
eating, decline in fitness, poor nutrition, exaggerated appetite,
and eating disorder. Behavior modification can help, but will not
produce results if it is part of a generalized devaluing of the self.
Who is more likely to sustain
desirable weight, the valued self or the devalued self?
If you believe it is hard to lose weight and keep it off because you
lack something, like discipline, will power, or just common sense,
your efforts will come from shame of what you are, rather than value
of your health and well being.
When the shame gets exhausting, distracting, confusing, or overwhelming,
as it always does, human nature makes us revert to the familiar, which
requires far less mental energy. That means the old eating habits.
Your problem in reaching and maintaining your desired weight is not
due to personal failings. You have plenty of discipline – you
have gone through so much trouble time and time again to lose weight.
You certainly have will power or you wouldn't keep trying after each
failure.
The problem lies not in you, but in your weight-loss programs, which
inadvertently set you up to fail.
No weight control program can succeed by dominating your consciousness
with food and weight. This actually increases the unconscious impulse
to eat.
Setting "goals" for weight loss makes you fail in the long
run. In other words, you win some, you lose some. In the long run,
winning and losing even out and put you back at your original weight,
if not higher.
No weight control program can succeed unless it helps you regulate
the core hurts that make you overeat and attack food. See Five
Myths of "Emotional Eating."
A successful program must develop a conditioned response to regulate
eating automatically. Otherwise, you will have to do the near impossible:
“stop and think about it,” when swept up in a rush to
eat.
With Core Value Eating, you stop thinking so much about weight and
start looking at yourself and others with more compassion.
Instead of making goals, you create more value in your life.
You value yourself more, which automatically makes you value your
health and well being.
You learn to motivate yourself with "Acts of Kindness,"
especially when you relapse. (Who are more likely to repeat mistakes,
those who punish themselves with guilt or shame or those who value
themselves?)
Core Value Eating conditions Core Value to occur with the impulse
to eat. The reflex of Core Value will then motivate whatever you do,
including food consumption.
Begin Core Value Eating with a list of five Acts of Kindness you will
do for yourself when you have a temporary relapse of overeating or
an attack on food. The point is to change the motivation to eat from
avoiding core hurts to experiencing Core Value. In making your list,
think of what will help you eat from your Core Value next time.
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With Core Value Eating, you learn to view your cores hurts compassionately, and when they occur, to look for the light of Core Value.
In that light, emanating from deep within, you will not have to worry about “managing” your weight. Your Core Value will do it for you.
Available from our online store:
Core Value Eating CD-ROM
The
CD - ROM consists of animated PowerPoint slides that expose the myths
of overeating. It includes:
- Core Value
- HEALS TM for
eating control
- Healing Food
Attacks
- Smart Emotions
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Causes of overeating and attacks on food Preview (Powerpoint)* or (HTML version)
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