The focus is on empowerment, how to get out of a hole, rather than how you may have gotten into it. 

He does not do mental health counseling. 

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Treatment Guide if You Want to Repair Your Relationship

Safety First!

Maintain an attitude of respect, especially in disagreements.

Try to understand your partner’s perspective, rather than put it down.

Ask questions, don’t make accusations.

Understand the principle of emotion reciprocity – the emotion you express is likely to be returned in kind, if not escalated.

Ask for what you want, instead of criticizing what you don’t want.

Ask for specific behavior changes, not global personality change.

Don’t use labels to describe your partner. (Labels are heavily biased and oversimplified descriptions, if not outright false.)

Try to improve situations, rather than blame them on loved ones.

Focus on present and future corrections.

Understand the amphetamine effects of anger and resentment – they give you a surge of energy and confidence, and then you crash. Daily or frequent expressions of anger and resentment lead to depression and more anger.

Practice binocular vision – seeing your partner’s perspective alongside your own.

Be the person and partner you most want to be, according to your deepest values, even when your partner is not in his/her core value.

Recognize that you like yourself better when compassionate and kind to loved ones than when resentful or angry at them.

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