Love without Hurt Boot Camp
Turn Resentment, Anger, Verbal Abuse, or Emotional Abuse into Compassion
August 7-9, Gaithersburg, MD (near Washington, DC)
Heal, Improve, Repair
Any man or woman can be an abuser and/or a victim, without knowing it.
To meet the overwhelming requests for the Boot Camp treatment demonstrated on three Oprah Winfrey shows, Dr. Steven Stosny is pleased to repeat his highly successful group version. (Register early; group boot camps typically fill up fast.)
The Boot Camp begins each morning at 9:30 and lasts until 5:30 pm. Each day is filled with information, and intensive exercises, with time allotted for in depth exploration of your questions.
Problems of chronic resentment, anger, or emotional abuse are not about relationship issues or personality. They result from failures of compassion and self-regulation. That is why marriage counseling, individual psychotherapy, anger-management, and abuser groups tend to worsen resentment and emotional abuse and help only slightly with anger.
Self-regulation is the ability to hold onto self-value and value for loves ones when you don’t like their behavior. When you can hold onto self-value and value for loved ones under stress, you cannot be resentful, angry, or abusive.
The boot camp gives you all the skills you need to keep the following commitment:
Commitment |
I will make a supreme effort to be compassionate to you:
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The negative effects of walking on eggshells can persist for years and almost certainly will have a negative effect on the children in the family. Take the Walking on Eggshells Quiz
Boot Camp Content
The Boot Camp produces dramatic change in a short time for those who do the work. The tone is healing, not accusatory, compassionate not blaming, valuing not devaluing, and, most of all, empowering. The first two days focus on self-healing and developing core value and self-compassion. The last day focuses on relationship repair.
The Boot Camp is the emotional equivalent to basic training in the military. You undergo rigorous exercises that teach you to regulate emotions under stress. You build skills for dealing with anger and resentment that will hold under the stress of conflicts with your family. You will master HEALS, which, after a few weeks of practice, eliminates most resentment and virtually all abusive impulses.
Drawing on his 20 years of experience treating more than 6,000 clients, Dr. Stosny teaches:
What you’ll learn:
In addition, you’ll learn how to:
Note: The boot camp is not for active domestic violence, which needs ongoing monitoring. Only those who have not been violent for at least six months and who vow never to be violent again may attend.
Getting Your Partner to Attend a Boot Camp
Chronic Resentment, Anger, or Emotional Abuse Breeds Self-Loathing
Testimonials
from Participants: “My husband and
I are so grateful for Dr. Stosny and his program. Both of our lives have dramatically
changed for the better. I have also received a tremendous physical healing since
the Boot Camp. I have suffered terribly with Fibromyalgia for many years but
since I began Dr. Stosny’s program, all of my FM pain and symptoms have
gone. My doctors are amazed and so am I. Thank you, Dr. Stosny!”
“Attending Dr. Stosny’s Stop Walking on Eggshells Workshop was a
life-changing experience. First, I learned that my husband and I were both walking
on eggshells, and this class was applicable to both of us. Though the abuse
was his problem, we both were angry and resentful towards each other. We arrived
fairly hopeless and unsure of what to expect. Since the workshop, we have a
newfound peace in our home and appreciation for each other. We have re-discovered
compassion for each other. I have learned how to stop walking on eggshells.
I have learned how to care for myself which allows me to care for others. Thank
you Dr. Stosny. I can't recommend this program enough!”
“I went to the seminar hoping my husband could change...I left realizing
it I was who had the power to change, it was I who needed to have compassion,
not only for my husband but mostly for myself. Thank you Dr. Stosny for showing
me there is so much life to live. Now even the smallest things I see mean so
much, realizing that I have been created to enjoy this and so much more. Because
of you I am slowly realizing the value in so so much....more importantly the
value in myself.”
“Dr. Stosny’s approach to changing the patterns of emotional and
verbal abuse works; regardless of the role you have in the relationship. I have
hope for the first time in many years. He gave me practical tools to apply to
my relationship.”
“Dr. Stosny taught us how to stop the abuse as well as how to open the
door to a happier, healthier and more compassionate relationship with our loved
ones and with everyone else in our lives. I witnessed and experienced, first
hand, the success of Dr. Stosny’s brilliant program. I recommend Dr. Stosny’s
program to anyone and everyone.”
“My husband and I attended the Boot Camp this past January and
it was an amazingly positive experience. Our marriage/relationship has made
quantum leaps in the areas of respecting and valuing each other and our children.
The ‘reconnection’ aspect of the program has been awesome. There’s
so much more fun, connectedness and compassion in our relationship. Everyone
in our family is a ‘happier camper.’ Dr. Stosny is a genius. I recommend
his Boot Camp to every couple.”
“I am so grateful to Dr. Stosny. You were able to reach my husband in
a way no one ever has before, and he said so. And I am working on my approaches
from new ways that you taught.”
“I just want to say that I believe in what you are doing! I believe that
this was the only way to help my husband. He had gone to two different anger
management counselors (court ordered for a year at a time). They never helped.
The counseling we started would always end when it seemed like the counselor
would start to deal with him and what he needed to change and work on. It was
a venting session and he would try to portray me as the villain and it was all
my fault—he had reasons to justify his actions. I have gotten an extra
book and given it to my counselor. I am reading the information over and over
and pick up some more every time. Thank you for all that you did and have done.
May God Bless you greatly!”
"The boot camp has been one of the most rewarding experiences for my husband and myself. After being in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship for many years this was my FIRST experience that showed me that there is LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL!! Compassion Power is a tool I that engages both partners and for the first time gave my spouse an understanding on what is going on so that both of us are able to acknowledge and do the necessary work to repair and recover from the state of anger and resentment. I have sought many years of counseling and participated in support groups of people who are angry, resentful and full of emotions.... and most of these feel very strongly about getting even with the spouse. The (boot camp) materials and the technique of HEALS are a LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE!!"
“Dr. Stosny has a brilliant program. He is a dynamic and fascinating lecturer, with a strong knowledge base in psychology, neuropsychology, anthropology, and animal behavior. His program for abusers is the work of a genius…and it is proving to be the most successful program for the abusers out there.
”What happened to love, honor and cherish? There's help for marriages mired in mutual resentment" - article about the boot camp in the St. Paul Pioneer Press
Registration includes 24 hours of workshop, manual, handouts, two CD-ROMs of narrated PowerPoint slides, an audio CD, beverages, and snacks.
Information: Email is best for the fastest response - CompassionPower@CompassionPower.com. If you wish to speak to someone on the phone, enclose your phone number in your email.
Single registration $699
If accompanied by spouse $869
Cancellation policy: Full refund until 4 weeks prior, half refund until 3 weeks, no refund thereafter. However, credit for unused reservations will be issued.
The Compassion Power Boot Camp will be held at the Wyndham Gardens Gaithersburg, at 805 Russell Avenue, Gaithersburg, MD 20879.
Spacious room that combines comfort and functionality, including free high-speed Internet access.