Love without Hurt Boot Camp

Turn Resentment, Anger, Verbal Abuse, or Emotional Abuse into Compassion

A Blueprint for Personal Healing

June 26-28, Gaithersburg, MD

To meet the many requests for the Boot Camp treatment demonstrated on three Oprah Winfrey shows, Dr. Steven Stosny is pleased to repeat his highly successful group version.

This three-day seminar provides all the information and skills you need to heal the effects of chronic resentment, anger, or emotionally abusive behavior. It includes:

  • 24 hours in-class education and training
  • 10 hours recorded webinars
  • 3 weekly group emails as followup (You can ask two questions of Dr. Stosny each week. Answers are distributed to entire group with anonymous questions.)

The boot camp will help you develop a Healing Identity that marshals your resilience, strengths, and desire to improve your life for healing and growth. The tone is healing, not accusatory, compassionate not blaming, valuing not devaluing, and, most of all, empowering.

The negative effects of walking on eggshells can persist for years and almost certainly will have a negative effect on the children in the family. Take the Walking on Eggshells Quiz

Drawing on his 25 years of experience treating more than 6,000 clients, Dr. Stosny teaches:

  • How reclaim your natural sense of competence, confidence, and compassion
  • How to stop resentment, anger, or emotional abuse from hurting your children
  • How to be the person and partner you most want to be
  • How to be motivated by your deepest values

What you’ll learn:

  • You can be abusive without intending to be
  • The latest scientific knowledge of how emotions work
  • The hidden role of fear and shame in relationships.

Day 1, 9:30am - 12:30pm - Commitments and foundational information

Day 1, 1:40pm - 5:30 - Self-regulation skills - Core Value and HEALS

Day 2, 9:30am - 12:30pm - Review of crucial self-regulation material

Day 2, 1:40pm - 5:30 - Exercises for overcoming criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness, resentment

Day 3, 9:30am - 12:30pm - Exercises for overcoming contempt, working through blind spots in interactions with loved ones, and developing the most important relationship skill: binocular vision

Day 3, 1:40pm - 5:30 - Relationship repair, establishing safety and protection, overcoming post traumatic stress, connection dilemmas, connection strategies, relapse prevention.
(All times are Eastern, US.)

Registration includes 24 hours of workshop, handouts, HEALS, beverages, and snacks. It also includes three sessions of group email consultation with Dr. Stosny, in addition to 10 recorded Webinars:

  • Core Value
  • Building Core Value Narratives
  • Temperamental clashes
  • Overcoming Relationship Destroyers
  • Jealousy
  • Anxiety
  • Binocular Vision
  • Love and Negotiation
  • The Reconnection Dilemma
  • Maintaining Gains

Getting Your Partner to Attend a Boot Camp

Chronic Resentment, Anger, or Emotional Abuse Breeds Self-Loathing

Testimonials from Participants:

"I'm very happy to say that our relationship has done a 180-degree turn compared to what it used to be since my husband completed the Boot Camp.  It's certainly is still far from perfect, and we still do have fights, but the entire tenor of our marriage has completely changed.  Your advice and my husband's strong desire to not lose me forever changed our lives.  Our marriage was in complete ruins and you've helped bring us back from the ashes. You made me realize that, one way or another, the walking on eggshells was going to stop -- for my baby's sake and also for my own sake.  My own healing process has taken me a while, but I'm getting there.  I'm grateful that your book explained the recovery dynamic.  I never would have realized how complicated my own recovery would be. I could never thank you enough for how you have saved our lives. You have made a tremendous difference in the life of our baby, too.  Please keep doing what you do. You change lives, mine included."  

"My husband and I are so grateful for Dr. Stosny and his program. Both of our lives have dramatically changed for the better. I have also received a tremendous physical healing since the Boot Camp. I have suffered terribly with Fibromyalgia for many years but since I began Dr. Stosny's program, all of my FM pain and symptoms have gone. My doctors are amazed and so am I. Thank you, Dr. Stosny!"

"Dr. Stosny's approach to changing the patterns of emotional and verbal abuse works; regardless of the role you have in the relationship. I have hope for the first time in many years. He gave me practical tools to apply to my relationship."

"I saw the Oprah shows, when Dr. Stosny was a guest. They were discussing the different types of relationship abuse, and the CompassionPower program that Dr. Stosny developed to help abusers learn to change their abusive behavior. After the show, I logged on to this website. After doing more reading I came to the realization that Verbal/ Emotional abuse towards me, by my spouse, was the reason for the problems in our marriage. I have since then visited this website for information many times. My spouse has finally given up the denial, and is ready to accept help with changing his behavior. It would be an answer to my prayers if a CompassionPower program is available in our area for him to attend. Your appearance on The Oprah Show, and the existence of your website, have been almost like life savers to me!"

"I am so grateful to Dr. Stosny. You were able to reach my husband in a way no one ever has before, and he said so. And I am working on my approaches from new ways that you taught."

“Dr. Stosny has a brilliant program. He is a dynamic and fascinating lecturer, with a strong knowledge base in psychology, neuropsychology, anthropology, and animal behavior. His program for abusers is the work of a genius…and it is proving to be the most successful program for the abusers out there.”

From Redbook:

"I was about to separate from Steve for the third time in our marriage when he announced he was going to a Smart Marriages Conference in Denver. Frankly, I doubted that a short conference would make any difference. When he came home, though, I noticed an immediate change: He didn't yell, and he was very affectionate. When he mentioned that Dr. Steven Stosny, the program's founder, also offered a three-day-long boot camp, I thought he should definitely go. If one day did this much, what could three days do? The answer: a miracle. After boot camp, Steve was able to admit for the first time in 20 years the damage and pain he had caused, and he became willing to work on healing our marriage. It wasn't easy; it took a full year for me to feel sure that Steve's anger issues were no longer a part of our relationship. But it was worth it.

"Today, we love spending time with each other, and we even teach a class at our church to help couples improve their marriages. We celebrated our renewed connection by finally taking that seven-day cruise, and this time, I was more than happy to be stuck with Steve in the middle of the ocean.

"Steve: Amy and I used to fight about everything. Over the course of our marriage, I became increasingly demanding and raised my voice if I felt like I wasn't heard, which would cause Amy to shut down and get scared. When she canceled our cruise because she didn't want to be alone with me for seven days, it was a big wake-up call. I wasn't ready to give up on us, so I went online and literally went shopping for advice and professionals that could help us in a short amount of time. I came across a conference called Smart Marriages. I was looking for an experience that was different from our failed marriage counseling sessions.

"The conference helped me accept that I had an anger problem, and while there, I discovered that Dr. Stosny offers a three-day boot camp specifically for men to learn how to handle anger. At the camp, I practiced responding to hurt feelings with compassion instead of anger. I basically trained my brain with a new choice — to protect my wife instead of responding in anger. Over time, Amy has grown to trust and feel safe with me because I've stopped raising my voice, and I try to meet her needs. She associates me with positive feelings instead of negative ones. It's absolutely worth doing, and I'm so glad I did."

Information: Email is best for the fastest response - CompassionPower. If you wish to speak to someone on the phone, enclose your phone number in your email.

Note: The boot camp is not for domestic violence, which needs ongoing monitoring. Only those who have not been violent for at least one year and who vow never to be violent again may attend. Otherwise, a local domestic violence program is recommended.

Couple registration $995


Single registration $795


Cancellation policy: Full refund until three weeks prior to the boot camp. Half refund until two weeks prior. No refund thereafter. But any unused fees can be applied to another boot camp or CompassionPower services or products, minus no show fees for those who cancel less than 48 hours before the boot camp, a per-seat charge we pay to the hotel. Refunds requested more than 60 days after the initial charge may be subject to a credit card transaction fee.

Information: Email is best for the fastest response - CompassionPower. If you wish to speak to someone on the phone, enclose your phone number in your email.

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The Love without Hurt Boot Camp will be held at the Hampton Inn, at 960 North Frederick Avenue,  Gaithersburg,  Maryland,  20879

301-990-4300 -- ask for the CompassionPower rate of $109 per night, including breakfast


Hampton Inn & Suites Gaithersburg provides a hotel shuttle service to businesses within a five-mile radius and the Shady Grove METRO station, so you’ll enjoy easy access to the historical sites of our nation's capital, the National Zoo or Washington, DC's many shopping and dining destinations.

Every stylish guest room at this Gaithersburg, Maryland hotel offers a range of thoughtful touches and modern amenities, including a comfortable, clean and fresh Hampton bed®, an LCD TV, free WiFi and an ergonomic work area. Every morning, join us for Hampton’s free hot breakfast buffet, or if you’re in a rush, grab a free Hampton On the Run® Breakfast Bag, available Monday through Friday, for a quick, healthy meal to go.

Energize with a workout in the free fitness center or with a dip in the indoor salt-purified swimming pool. Stay connected while you stay at our hotel in Gaithersburg in the free business center that offers a range of services and amenities, and hold a meeting in the flexible conference room.

Reagan Washington National( DCA)

  • Distance: 22.0 MI/35.41 KM NORTH WEST to Hotel Taxi Charge (one way): $65.00  USD
  • Time by Taxi: 35 minutes

Follow the signs exiting the airport for Washington, DC and take the George Washington Parkway North . Take the exit for I-495 North to Maryland. Take I-270 North and then exit 11, Montgomery Village Ave. Turn left onto MD 355 at the intersection. Hotel is ½ mile on the right.

Washington Dulles Int'l( IAD)

  • Distance: 32.0 MI/51.5 KM NORTH to Hotel Taxi Charge (one way): $70.00  USD
  • Time by Taxi: 45 minutes

Take the Dulles Toll Road 13 miles. Take the exit for I-495 North to Maryland. Take I-270 North and then exit 11, Montgomery Village Ave. Turn left onto MD 355 at the intersection. Hotel is ½ mile on the right.

Baltimore Washington International( BWI)

  • Distance: 40.0 MI/64.37 KM WEST to Hotel Taxi Charge (one way): $75.00  USD
  • Time by Taxi: 1 hour

Take 295 South to I-95 South to I-495 West to I-270 North and take exit 11 - Montgomery Village Ave. Turn left onto MD 355 at the intersection. Hotel is ½ mile on the right.


  • Subway Station Name:Shady Grove Metro - Red Line
  • Distance: 4.0 MI/6.44 KM SOUTH to Hotel
  • Complimentary shuttle available