The Boot Camp produces dramatic change in a short time for those who do the work. The tone is healing, not accusatory, compassionate not blaming, valuing not devaluing, and, most of all, empowering.

Drawing on his 25 years of experience treating more than 6,000 clients, Dr. Stosny teaches:

• How to recover from the pain of chronic resentment, anger, or emotional abuse and reclaim your natural sense of competence, confidence, and compassion
• How to stop resentment, anger, or emotional abuse from hurting your children
• How to be the person and partner you most want to be
• How to be motivated by your deepest values

What you’ll learn:

• You can be abusive without intending to be
• The latest scientific knowledge of how emotions work
• The hidden role of fear and shame in relationships

In addition, you’ll learn how to:  

• Remove the thorns from your heart and regain your true self
• Automatically regulate resentment, anger, and the impulse to abuse
• Replace power struggles with mutual empowerment
• Establish a deeper connection based on compassion
• Prevent relapse
• How to know that change is permanent

Getting Your Partner to Attend a Boot Camp

Chronic Resentment, Anger, or Emotional Abuse Breeds Self-Loathing

Testimonials from Participants: "My husband and I are so grateful for Dr. Stosny and his program. Both of our lives have dramatically changed for the better. I have also received a tremendous physical healing since the Boot Camp. I have suffered terribly with Fibromyalgia for many years but since I began Dr. Stosny's program, all of my FM pain and symptoms have gone. My doctors are amazed and so am I. Thank you, Dr. Stosny!"

"Dr. Stosny's approach to changing the patterns of emotional and verbal abuse works; regardless of the role you have in the relationship. I have hope for the first time in many years. He gave me practical tools to apply to my relationship."

"I saw the Oprah shows, when Dr. Stosny was a guest. They were discussing the different types of relationship abuse, and the CompassionPower program that Dr. Stosny developed to help abusers learn to change their abusive behavior. After the show, I logged on to this website. After doing more reading I came to the realization that Verbal/ Emotional abuse towards me, by my spouse, was the reason for the problems in our marriage. I have since then visited this website for information many times. My spouse has finally given up the denial, and is ready to accept help with changing his behavior. It would be an answer to my prayers if a CompassionPower program is available in our area for him to attend. Your appearance on The Oprah Show, and the existence of your website, have been almost like life savers to me!"

"I am so grateful to Dr. Stosny. You were able to reach my husband in a way no one ever has before, and he said so. And I am working on my approaches from new ways that you taught."

“Dr. Stosny has a brilliant program. He is a dynamic and fascinating lecturer, with a strong knowledge base in psychology, neuropsychology, anthropology, and animal behavior. His program for abusers is the work of a genius…and it is proving to be the most successful program for the abusers out there.”

From Redbook:

"I was about to separate from Steve for the third time in our marriage when he announced he was going to a Smart Marriages Conference in Denver. Frankly, I doubted that a short conference would make any difference. When he came home, though, I noticed an immediate change: He didn't yell, and he was very affectionate. When he mentioned that Dr. Steven Stosny, the program's founder, also offered a three-day-long boot camp, I thought he should definitely go. If one day did this much, what could three days do? The answer: a miracle. After boot camp, Steve was able to admit for the first time in 20 years the damage and pain he had caused, and he became willing to work on healing our marriage. It wasn't easy; it took a full year for me to feel sure that Steve's anger issues were no longer a part of our relationship. But it was worth it.

"Today, we love spending time with each other, and we even teach a class at our church to help couples improve their marriages. We celebrated our renewed connection by finally taking that seven-day cruise, and this time, I was more than happy to be stuck with Steve in the middle of the ocean.

"Steve: Amy and I used to fight about everything. Over the course of our marriage, I became increasingly demanding and raised my voice if I felt like I wasn't heard, which would cause Amy to shut down and get scared. When she canceled our cruise because she didn't want to be alone with me for seven days, it was a big wake-up call. I wasn't ready to give up on us, so I went online and literally went shopping for advice and professionals that could help us in a short amount of time. I came across a conference called Smart Marriages. I was looking for an experience that was different from our failed marriage counseling sessions.

"The conference helped me accept that I had an anger problem, and while there, I discovered that Dr. Stosny offers a three-day boot camp specifically for men to learn how to handle anger. At the camp, I practiced responding to hurt feelings with compassion instead of anger. I basically trained my brain with a new choice — to protect my wife instead of responding in anger. Over time, Amy has grown to trust and feel safe with me because I've stopped raising my voice, and I try to meet her needs. She associates me with positive feelings instead of negative ones. It's absolutely worth doing, and I'm so glad I did."

What happened to love, honor and cherish? There"s help for marriages mired in mutual resentment" - article about the boot camp in the St. Paul Pioneer Press

Single registration $699

Cancellation policy: Full refund until three weeks prior to the the boot camp. Half refund until two weeks prior. No refund thereafter. But any unsued fees can be applied to another boot camp or CompassionPower services or products.

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The Love without Hurt Compassion Power Boot Camp will be held at the Wyndham Gardens Gaithersburg, at 805 Russell Avenue, Gaithersburg, MD 20879. Call 301-670-0008 -- ask for the CompassionPower rate of $89 per night. This special rate is guaranteed for reservations through 5/15/12.

Spacious room that combines comfort and functionality, including free high-speed Internet access

Large desk with conveniently placed lighting and outlets and an ergonomic chair for comfort.
All rooms include in-room coffee makers, hair dryers, irons, and ironing boards.

Any of the three DC airports are okay. Even though they are different distances, traffic patterns make them all about a 45 minute drive on Super Shuttle or rental car.

From: Washington Dulles International Airport (IAD) 30 miles
Take 495 North 8 miles to Exit 38, I-270N, to Exit 11 (Rt 124) at 3rd light make a left on Russell Avenue, hotel is on the right.

From: Reagan National Airport (DCA) 35 miles
Take GW Pky North 12 miles to Capital Beltway, (I-495) North to Maryland for 5.5 miles to exit 38 (I-270N) to Frederick, continue on I-270N 13 miles to Rt 124 East, exit 11, at 3rd light, Russell Ave turn left, hotel is located on the right.

From: Baltimore/Washington International Airport (BWI) 50 miles
Take I-95 South to Washington to I-495W Silver Spring, I-270 N for 13 miles to exit 11, Route 124, at 3rd light, Russell Ave turn left, hotel is located on the right.