Part I.
In general:
I dwell on things that bother me___
I have trouble listening to people who disagree with me___
I try to point out mistakes and flaws in other people___
Some people think I have a sarcastic sense of humor___
Some people think I’m insensitive___
It doesn’t take much to get me angry___
I sometimes hold onto resentments___
I often feel disrespected or treated unfairly by more than one person___
When something goes wrong, the most important think is finding out who’s to blame.___
Total number of checks X 2 ___
Part II:
During the past week, I felt:
Irritable ___
Tense, tensed up ___
Losing temper easily ___
Shaky ___
Angry ___
Annoyed ___
Restless ___
Mad ___
Resentful ___
Irritated by other people ___
Hot-tempered ___
Hostile ___
Total number of checks X 1 ___
Part III:
During the past week, I felt:
Rage ___
Hate ___
Furious ___
Like attacking people ___
Total number of checks x 3 ____
Total Score: add totals from Parts I, II, III.___
Scoring Key
Under 9: Congratulations, your level of anger is not bad. You might take this test occasionally to be sure it stays that way.
10-19: Anger is becoming a problem for you. You may be on edge about what might make you angry next.
20 and above: Anger is on the verge of taking over your life and your relationships, if it has not already.
Anger in Relationships Test
Please put a check next to all that apply.
When I am angry at my spouse (or significant other) and I think about his or her feelings:
I feel angrier ____
I feel kinder ____
I feel warmer ____
I feel furious ____
I don’t care about his or her point of view, at least not until I cool down ____
I feel patient ____
I feel like I should give support and sympathy ____
I feel like I should apologize for hurting his or her feelings ____
I feel charitable, forgiving ____
I find that I can’t think about what he or she is feeling until I calm down ____
I wish he or she would just see it the right way ____
Why should I see it their way, they don’t see my point of view ____
Subtract checks on b, c, f, g, h, i from checks on a, d, e, j, k, l.
Scoring Key
Any positive number indicates a potentially serious problem in your relationship.
Impatience Test
Please put a check after each that applies.
When I’m in a hurry or need to get things done or just in the course of an ordinary day, I:
Lose track of other people’s perspectives ___
Fail to understand or care about how they feel ___
Feel disgusted by their choices ___
Feel held back ___
Feel like hardly anything works the way it should ___
Feel like the world is full of jerks___
Total Score (add all the checks)___
Scoring Key
0-1: Congratulations, you’re not too impatient.
2-3: Impatience is causing you a few problems.
3 and above: Impatience may be impairing your relationships and setting you up for failure.