Chronic Resentment, Anger,
Emotional Abuse
Self-Help Boot Camp
Does everyone in your family feel safe?
Respected?
Loved?
Do you cope with discomfort, disappointment, hurt, or failure with:
Blame?
Denial?
Avoidance?
Have you tried therapy or couples counseling that worsened resentment, anger, or emotional abuse?
The acclaimed Love without Hurt Boot Camp is a different approach, focused on empowerment and skill-building.
This self-help version is 50 recorded Webinars, plus exercises.
Not sure that you need the boot camp? Ask yourself:
Do I like myself when angry or resentful?
Do my partner and children like themselves?
Boot Camp Content (complete list of prerecorded Webinars)
Session 1: Personal Healing
⋅ Empowerment
⋅ Your Immune System
⋅ Your Core Value
⋅ Emotion Reconditioning
Session 2: Dynamics
⋅ Overcome Resentment
⋅ Binocular Vision
⋅ Blind Spots
⋅ Compassionate Assertiveness
Session 3: Relationship Repair
⋅ Residual emotions
⋅ Techniques of Repair
Session 4: Anxiety, Negotiation
⋅ Anxiety
⋅ Temperament Clashes
⋅ Jealousy
⋅ Final Statement of Compassion
Testimonials from Participants
Note: The boot camp is not for active domestic violence. Your local DV agency won’t produce change but will provide ongoing monitoring for safety. Near completion of a DV program is a prerequisite to the boot camp for violent couples.
Self-Help Boot Camp: $250 Buy
You have the option of purchasing consultations with Dr. Stosny to coach, answer questions, or review your exercises.
Additional Information: CompassionPower.
Take the Waking on Eggshells Quiz
Will your partner participate?
Your partner may not readily agree to a Boot Camp.
He or she is likely to blame you for the problems of the relationship and will not be highly motivated to change.
When living with a resentful or angry person, you can easily get stuck in a pendulum of pain:
“When my partner heals whatever hurt seems to cause the resentment and anger, then he/she will be more compassionate.”
The truth is:
Your partner will not heal – or be safe to live with – without becoming more compassionate.
Your compassion will heal you, not your partner.
What is emotional abuse?
Behaviors intended to make loved ones feel bad about themselves…
Though often not willfully, abusers invoke shame or fear to get what they want.
Characteristics
Resentful, angry, or abusive people blame their partners:
“You push my buttons.”
“I might have overreacted, but I’m human, and look what you did!”
They feel like victims, which, in their minds, justifies victimizing others.
The Silent Abuser
Not all emotional abuse is shouting or name-calling.
More common forms are disengaging and stonewalling.
Stonewallers punish by refusing to hear their partners’ perspectives:
“End of conversation!”
Disengaging partners say:
“Just leave me alone.”
Either form of abuse can make you feel:
- Unseen
- Unheard
- Unattractive
- Like you don’t count
- Like a single parent
Note: Dr. Stosny posted some of this same material and much more on the Oprah Winfrey Website.
Dr. Stosny’s Blog on Psychology Today
Dr. Stosny’s Articles on Oprah.com