Chronic Resentment, Anger,
Or Emotional Abuse
Self-Help Boot Camp
Resentment in families is inherently devaluing.
It devalues those who resent and those who are resented.
When chronic, resentment leads to angry outbursts and, eventually, to emotional abuse, to making loved ones feel afraid or bad about themselves.
Resentment and anger may be justified, but that’s never the point. The crucial questions we must ask ourselves are:
Do I like myself when resentful, angry, or devaluing people I love?
Is this the way I want to live my life?
Do my loved ones like themselves? Do they feel safe?
Sadly, individual therapy and couples counseling tend to worsen resentment.
The acclaimed Love without Hurt Boot Camp is a different approach, focused on empowerment and skill-building for personal healing and a better future.
Boot Camp Content (complete list of prerecorded Webinars)
Session 1: Personal Healing
⋅ Empowerment
⋅ Your Immune System
⋅ Your Core Value
⋅ Emotion Reconditioning
Session 2: Relationship Dynamics
⋅ Binocular Vision
⋅ Blind Spots
⋅ Compassionate-Assertiveness
Session 3: Relationship Repair
⋅ Residual Emotions
⋅ Techniques of Repair
Session 4: Anxiety, Negotiation
⋅ Anxiety
⋅ Temperament Clashes
⋅ Jealousy
⋅ Final Compassion Statement
Testimonials from Participants
Sample: Download First two of 50 Boot Camp Webinars
Note: The boot camp is not for active domestic violence. Your local DV agency won’t produce change but will provide ongoing monitoring for safety. In cases of violence, near completion of a DV program is prerequisite to the boot camp.
Self-Help Boot Camp: $250 Buy (The download link for the four sessions of the boot camp will be embedded in your purchase receipt.)
You have the option of purchasing consultations with Dr. Stosny, although most people do not require extra coaching or help in answering questions or reviewing the exercises.
Take the Waking on Eggshells Quiz
Your partner will not heal – or be safe to live with – without becoming more compassionate.
Your compassion will heal you, not your partner.
What is emotional abuse?
Behaviors intended to make loved ones afraid or feel bad about themselves.
Though often not willfully, abusers invoke shame or fear to get what they want.
Characteristics
Resentful, angry, or abusive people blame their partners:
“You push my buttons.”
“I might have overreacted, but I’m human, and look what you did!”
They feel like victims, which, in their minds, justifies victimizing others.
The Silent Abuser
Not all emotional abuse is shouting or name-calling.
More common forms are disengaging and stonewalling.
Stonewallers punish by refusing to hear their partners’ perspectives:
“End of conversation!”
Disengaging partners say:
“Just leave me alone.”
Either form of abuse can make you feel:
- Unseen
- Unheard
- Unattractive
- Like you don’t count
- Like a single parent
Note: Dr. Stosny posted some of this same material and much more on the Oprah Winfrey Website.
Dr. Stosny’s Blog on Psychology Today
Dr. Stosny’s Articles on Oprah.com