Effects on Children
Children who witness resentment, anger, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, or physical violence walk on eggshells. The usual symptoms are:
Living in a household where they walk on eggshells makes a child 10 times more likely to become either an abuser or a victim of abuse. As adults, they are at increased risk of:
Witnessing a parent victimized is usually more psychologically damaging to children than injuries from direct child abuse. Seeing a parent abused is child abuse.
The best thing you can do for your children is have a compassionate marriage. Parents model for children how to regulate their own emotions and how to participate in relationships. By watching us, they learn how to:
When parents stop walking on eggshells, their children develop:
Even if your partner does not cooperate with making your marriage more compassionate, you can change your kids' lives for the better with compassionate parenting:
Unless your child's symptoms are severe, our experience has been that doing the work in the Boot Camps, as outlined in Love without Hurt, eliminates most of the symptoms. Children learn by modeling -- by watching how their parents regulate their emotions. When you are less reactive, more authentic, and more compassionate, they will be, too.
Help is available in the Love without Hurt Boot Camps and in: