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Thursday, August 21 2008

For professionals & educators
Valentine's Mesage                                                                February 14, 2007

Dear Friends

You’re no doubt familiar with the usual distinction between love and lust. Love is a psychological and emotional connection, whereas lust is a chemically- driven infatuation of the body. The distinction I want to talk about is more subtle: core hurt love vs. core value love

Core Hurt Love vs. Core Value Love

Core value love is awareness that your love and compassion make you a better person, i.e., valuable and worthy of another’s love.

Core hurt love is the expectation that someone else’s love and compassion will make you a better person.

Other people can make you feel loved but not worthy of love. Only the strength and resiliency of your own love and compassion can make you feel that your love is valuable and that you are worthy of another’s love.

You have very little control over how much love and compassion you are given, for that depends on whether your partner can stay in touch with his or her core value. But you have absolute control over how much love and compassion you give. And by virtue of the law of positive reciprocity, you are more likely to get love and compassion once you freely give them.

Happy Valentine's Day


Steven Stosny
CompassionPower